QUESTION

I have a crush on this girl on my team, and I want to ask her out, but I don't know if she is into girls. Do you have any tips for asking someone their sexuality without it being awkward?

Answer

"This question is always a little tricky.

Unfortunately, it's always a little awkward when you're inquiring to see if someone is interested in you because there's that little fear of rejection that we all have, and it's totally normal.

I think you can if you have this relationship and if you have this comfort level, you can pull this person in private and ask them if they'd ever be interested in dating girls. You can share a little bit about your experience and say that you date girls.

And then, if you want, you can bluntly ask them if they'd ever be interested in going out. I think that's totally fine, and if they say no, no pressure, that's totally OK. Would love to maintain our friendship."

Gabrielle Vincent
She/Her

is a former professional soccer player who works in the Washington D.C. Mayor's Office of LGBTQ Affairs.