QUESTION

How do you know if you just want to become friends with a person that has the same gender identity as you or if what you’re feeling is the beginning of a crush?

Answer

"This question is difficult to answer whether we're talking about queer relationships or not.

In my opinion, I think you should spend a lot of time with that person, see if your values align, if you have similar interests, and then the feelings will eventually reveal themselves.

In my opinion, I usually go based off my love language. So for example, mine is quality time, so if I'm finding that I want to spend a lot of quality time with somebody, and I have this attraction towards them, then maybe it's something to consider that I might have romantic feelings for them.

And hopefully it's mutual, but if not it's OK, there's plenty of people in the world that you can fall in love with and catch feelings for."

Gabrielle Vincent
She/Her

is a former professional soccer player who works in the Washington D.C. Mayor's Office of LGBTQ Affairs.