QUESTION

Did you ever feel like you're almost not queer after all after coming out? My friends felt weird after I came out and it made me feel embarrassed for coming out, and now I feel like I might not be queer. But I thought about it for so long and I feel it, but I don't know if that's real or if I'm just feeling embarrassed if that makes sense.

Answer

"What you're saying here really makes sense, and I think that is something that most people probably consider.

And, honestly, sometimes I still do. But what I've come to realize and find out is that you don't owe anybody an explanation, really, not even yourself.

You know, I think not only is sexual identity fluid, but also the way that we handle situations, the way we feel, the way we think, the way we navigate times in our lives as human is also fluid. So don't apologize for being you. Own it. Whatever it is, whenever it is, it's you. And be as authentic as you can, and you can't go wrong."

Kevin Maxen
He/Him

Kevin Maxen is a former college football player and the current associate strength coach for the Jacksonville Jaguars.